5 Examples of Unconditional Love
5 Examples of Unconditional Love | Not everyone experiences unconditional love in the same way and not everyone has the same definition. Because unconditional love can be experienced subjectively, it could be helpful to have the conversation with your partner to identify how they may experience it. We are often well aware of issues within our relationship or when we are feeling lonely, but sometimes we don’t always have a clear idea of what unconditional love could look like in a healthy partnership.
It is important to understand where you’ve gathered your definition of unconditional love, as well as understand how it may apply to your relationships. My idea of unconditional love may be different than your’s and that’s ok! Here are 5 healthy examples of how you can experience unconditional love in a partnership.
Example #1 of Unconditional Love: Letting your guard down and being accepted.
We have so many responsibilities and play so many roles on a daily basis, that we could use a safe place to just be. When someone loves you unconditionally, you feel safe enough to be yourself—flaws and all. You feel comfortable exploring, pushing through your own comfort zones and/or having moments of falling apart. On the flip side: Your partner also lets their guard down and you are able to witness their authenticity without passing any judgment. You both are accepting of each other’s imperfections, uniqueness and encourage each other’s authenticity.
Example #2 of Unconditional Love: Leaning on your partner when you’re struggling and not owing them anything in return.
Being vulnerable is extremely difficult to do—it can often feel like you’re literally leaving your heart open to be hurt (seriously, we know the feeling). It can be really hard to ask for assistance when you’re struggling, especially if you generally like to keep your struggles private. But, if we are experiencing an unconditional relationship, then regardless of how hard it is for us to ask for help, we at least feel confident in our partner to hold that space for us if we did. We feel confident in knowing that they would hold that space without making us feel guilty, ashamed, or insecure for needing help. Most importantly, we don’t feel indebted to them either.
Example #3 of Unconditional Love: Admitting when you’ve hurt your partner without looking for an apology back, (and vice versa).
If you can own your behavior (whether it was intentional or not), it proves to your person that you care about their emotional well-being over your own ego. If they love us unconditionally, we feel comfortable enough to tell them when we have made a mistake, without fearing that they will rub it in our faces and hold it against us. Being able to apologize to one another without keeping score is a huge part of being in an unconditional relationship.
Example #4 of Unconditional Love: Being able to forgive and give the benefit of the doubt.
Let’s get real: Most of us mess up from time to time. We aren’t perfect. When we mess up in our relationships, we hope to have unconditional acceptance and understanding that when we make a mistake that it isn’t because we don’t care; it is often because we are working on something that is challenging for us. When we exhibit empathy, we show unconditional love for our partner by not holding every mistake against them or their character. Being able to forgive and trust intentions of our partners, is a huge sign that you love each other unconditionally.
Example #5 of Unconditional Love: Not expecting your partner to change.
Often times the qualities we love about our partners are the qualities we end up disliking down the road. This is often because our partners our truly our biggest teachers in life and somewhere down the line, we are confronted with our own projections and self work. Our partner can help us understand ourselves better if we try to see our relationship from that lens, verses expect them to change or hold out love for them until they do. When we don’t expect our partner to change, we understand ourselves and why we need that change to begin with. We can eventually come to a healthy compromise as we grow together, while we build an unconditional relationship.
Being in an unconditional loving relationship feels safe. It isn’t perfect, but for the most part, it feels secure. If you are in an unconditionally loving relationship, try our Intimacy Guide to deepen your level of attunement to each other.
Tell us, what is your definition of unconditional love? Have you ever experienced it?
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