Month: January 2018

11 Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day

11 Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day

Do you ever think to yourself, “Do I even have any ideas for Valentine’s Day? We’ve done everything! I’ve gotten so many Valentine’s Day Gifts! What else left is there to do?” If you’re anything like me, you’ve also fallen off the romantic train a few times and you feel discouraged when the infamous romantic holiday rears it’s lovely head.

It can be challenging at times to think of something genuine, creative or even thoughtful when Valentine’s Day creeps up. We work a lot, we have social lives; life sometimes gets the best of our energy and when Valentine’s Day comes around, we may feel uninspired. Hey, it’s ok! 

Aron and I are not huge fans of Valentine’s Day, but we think it’s important to regularly date each other and do things that are intentional together. Whether you have spent hours racking your brain around ideas for Valentine’s Day, or you’d like to surprise your S.O. randomly, I’m hopeful this list will inspire you to enjoy time together. Don’t let your ideas for Valentine’s Day this year be obligatory or stressful! Make it a goal to make this year thoughtful and intentional!

In my opinion personal and professional opinion, the sexiest, most romantic and/or genuine thing you can do for one another is ENJOY QUALITY (Intentional) TIME TOGETHER.

Here are some unique and thoughtful ideas for Valentine’s Day that involve more QT than traditional dinner reservations:

1. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Kick it Ol’School

Ideas for Valentine's DayLock yourselves up in your house, turn off all electronics (except for maybe a music player) and play board games; make Hot Toddies; laugh at each other and be silly. This may seem “lame” to our modern standards, but the intentional thought process of spending such un-interrupted quality time, is actually really romantic. Get lost in being present with each other and see what happens when you don’t put any pressure on yourselves!

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2. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Couples Massage

“Well duh,” you may be saying! “This isn’t original!” Well, here’s the kicker… Instead of spending a bunch of money on a fancy couples massage, (one in which I may remind you, you aren’t even touching each other!) shop around and find your honey’s favorite scent in a massage oil and surprise them with a sexy and sensual home massage, with you as the masseuse/masseur. Maybe even purchase erotic massage cards (more geared toward heterosexual couples) or strengthen your techniques by reading up on some tips for male erotic massage or tips for female erotic massage. Set up a romantic and calming space in your home, even if its a sheet on the bed or the floor. Light candles, play calming music and take turns massaging each other. I’m sure this is a better way to relieve your tension anyway!

3. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Reminisce

Ideas for Valentine's DayThe actual definition of reminisce is to “indulge in a enjoyable recollection of past events.” How romantic and thoughtful is that? Plan an intention day or night to enjoy a bottle of wine, lay a blanket out on the living room floor and go over past photos, year books, albums, music that spark memories, etc. Anything that inspires enjoyable memories and fun. To complete the Valentine’s Day, maybe order in your favorite meal and relax together.

4. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Naked Dinner

Surprise your partner by starting their favorite meal in the kitchen, wearing nothing but an apron. I’m sure they won’t even notice you forgot to buy them a card! Have fun together and make it a point to be naked for the rest of the day/night together.

5. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Listen to Live Music

Take your partner to a random dive bar (or a nice jazz lounge if that’s more your thing) and listen to live music together. Make the night about the two of you enjoying a change of pace and environment, have a martini and indulge a bit.

6. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Go on a First Date

Ideas for Valentine's DayIf you’re in a long term relationship, then you know the novelty starts to wear off and normal day-to-day routines can be uninspiring. This is normal… and doesn’t mean you are not in love with your partner. It just means, we know each other sometimes too well. Maybe this year, ask your partner out on a first date and enjoy Valentine’s Day for the “first time.” Pretend to be strangers; ask each other the fun questions you would normally ask if you were on a first date; put reservations under false names; have fun being a different person with each other and flirt with the mystery of the unknown. Best part… you get to pretend to have a one night stand afterwards!

7. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Make Each Other Something

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Have you ever made your partner something? Or maybe you want to finally do X, Y, Z around the house that your partner has been asking you to do for months. Either way, try to find time to intentionally create or fix something for them. Maybe you include their favorite flower or small gift. You don’t have to be an artist or a professional handy-person, but the thought really does feel romantic and thoughtful for Valentine’s Day when you’ve put in the personal effort.

8. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Order Room Service

Ideas for Valentine's DayWhen you stay at a hotel, you usually order room service, right? This means, you usually eat in bed. Well, you don’t need to be at a fancy hotel to pretend your on a vacation. It’s all about creating the intention and sticking to the fantasy of being away on a trip together. Do what you normally do on vacation; take a nice hot shower together, put on your robes and play a funny movie. Order “room service” (ie. your favorite take out joint) and eat dinner in bed together.

9. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Speak Their Language

If you’re familiar with Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages, then you probably know you and your partner don’t always speak the same ones. You partner may need physical touch to feel love, where as you may need them to do things around the house for you. Whatever your language, they are important. Maybe take the quiz together and attempt to speak each other’s language for the evening.. (maybe even the rest of the week!)

10. Thoughtful Ideas for Valentine’s Day : Go on a Staycation 

We are HUGE FANS of staycations! If your budget and schedule permits, book a hotel room, Airbnb or Bed and Breakfast… even if it’s only 20 minutes away from your home. Stay in the city, go to the mountains… Whatever gets you out of your daily grind! Maybe check out which hotels are near your favorite restaurant so you can walk there or go to a city you’ve never been nearby.

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